Is He Taken? Find Out with South Jersey Matchmakers

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Here’s how it goes: You’ve been going out with a guy for some time now. Things were going just perfect, but you have started to notice that things aren’t quite right. Your new beau isn’t behaving right and you can’t put your finger on it.

You tell yourself that you are just imagining things and it’s just your mind playing tricks on you. You have dated so many men before that you are used to getting burned. Well, if he is the perfect guy, why isn’t he already in a relationship?

Or is he already in a relationship and playing you too? Today, our dating experts here at South Jersey Matchmakers are going to reveal a few warning signs that your gut was right and he is already taken.

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Telltale Signs He Has a Girlfriend

It sucks to know that the guy you are seeing has a girlfriend already, but you can’t fall for a guy that’s already taken. It’s always better to know so you can move on and find someone who isn’t already in a relationship, someone who is worthy of your love and attention.

1. Your phone calls go unanswered.

This is the most obvious sign he already has a girlfriend. Keep an eye out for unanswered phone calls. It’s common for people in new relationships to call each other many times during the day just to say hi and chitchat. But if he doesn’t answer your phone calls, you should be worried.

Okay, so we know that guys don’t always enjoy talking on the phone, but he should at least text you during the day or reply when he gets a chance. If he rejects your phone calls or his phone is always turned off, then he could have a girlfriend at home.

2. He keeps his phone hidden.

Aside from not answering your phone calls or text messages, he is very secretive about his cell phone. When he comes to see you at your place, he keeps the phone in his car or turns it off for the night. He doesn’t take phone calls when he is with you or never brings the phone out at all.  If he does take a call, he excuses himself to go outside and take it. He never uses his cell phone around you. His cell phone is also password-protected.

3. Your name is stored under a different name.

If your number is stored under something completely different than your name, then this should immediately raise a red flag. Why would a guy hide your name from anyone, unless he is keeping it hidden from his girlfriend? He is clearly taken and doesn’t want his girlfriend to find out who you are.

4. He is never around on the weekends.

He is never available on the weekends. Whenever you ask him what he did over the weekend, he tells you he slept the entire weekend, that work was too hard on him the previous week, or he simply has another excuse as to why he didn’t answer your phone calls for the last few days. You might also notice that he isn’t available during the afternoons/evenings during the weekdays.

5. He is never around during holidays.

Memorial Day weekend, Fourth of July and Thanksgiving are all holidays that couples usually spend together. He has never once spent a holiday with you, not even Valentine’s Day. He tells you he has to work that day and is usually out of town. Ladies, if a guy can’t spent a single holiday with you, this means he is already taken. He is spending this holidays with his real girlfriend.

6. He only hangs out at your place.

He comes to see you at the most unexpected times. You find it cute and kind of sweet. But little do you know, he does it because that’s the only time he is available. If you ask to go to his place, he’ll have an excuse as to why you can’t. If you’ve never been to his place or don’t even know where he lives, it’s time you take the blinders off and realize that he has girlfriend.

7. He doesn’t tell you anything about his life.

He hasn’t told you anything about his life. You don’t know where he lives, where he grew up, if he has brothers or sisters, or even where he works. You don’t know anything. If you feel like he has isolated you, then you should be wondering why. He is keeping you hidden from everyone he knows for a reason… He has a girlfriend.

8. He only comes out for a little bit.

While you might see him a few times during the week, it’s only for an hour or two. He never spends the night at your place and is clearly only using you for sex. He isn’t that concerned about you or how your day went. He comes over, gets what he wants from you, and is trying to scoot out the door to get back to his girlfriend at home.

9. He told you he has no family in town.

He told you he doesn’t have any family in town. He might have even told you that he has no friends. Come to think of it, he has never introduced you to anyone. While you might have already taken him to meet your friends and family, you will never meet his.

10. He is too private on dates.

You love the fact that he takes you on dates but you don’t like that is 1 hour away to a hole-in-the-wall type restaurant. He is not doing this because he loves the restaurant but rather because he doesn’t want anyone to see you with him. Think about it, why would he want to keep you private? The answer is simple, he has a girlfriend.

11. He keeps his wallet safeguarded.

Have you ever seen his wallet? Most guys keep a picture of their girlfriend inside. If he is very protective of his wallet, kind of like he is with his phone, this is a warning sign he has a girlfriend.

12. No social media accounts.

In today’s world, everyone has a social media account, right? You thought so, but not him. He says he doesn’t use social media. You took up upon yourself to check it out and do a little behind the scenes snooping for yourself, only to find out that his account is private. He has Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram but doesn’t want to add you as a friend. Do you really need another sign that he has a girlfriend?

One of the best ways to find out if the guy you are seeing has a girlfriend is to listen to that little voice inside of you. Here at South Jersey Matchmakers, we know that it’s right in most cases.

If you’re tired of meeting questionable guys and ready to stand up guys, contact us today. Here at South Jersey Matchmakers, we’ll introduce you to quality single men in New Jersey, guys who are ready for a serious commitment.

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