NJ Matchmakers Reveal 4 Things Girls Say That Scare Men

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When it comes to relationships, there are certain things one should never say to their partner. Even though in theory we should be able to say anything to them, our NJ matchmakers know there’s a thin line that should never be crossed.

Although we should tell our partners how we really feel, some words can actually do more harm than good.

Not everyone is wise when it comes to knowing the right things to say – and what not to say. While it might be hurtful, it doesn’t mean it has to be the end of the relationship.

Here at South Jersey Matchmakers, our dating and relationship experts have rounded up – straight from men’s mouths – a few of the most common things women say that scare men away.

1. Shut up.

Telling a guy to shut up is a really quick way to scare the life out of him, especially if you’re just starting to date. Although saying it once in jest when you’ve known him for a while is fairly harmless, it becomes a huge problem when you say it all the time.

This is especially the case if you tell him to shut up in front of friends or even family. It’s very rude and will hurt his ego. It shows a lack of respect for his opinion and his right to say what he wants. Telling a guy to shut up – and being serious about it – shows that you are disrespectful.

2. What about the check?

Everyone knows that men are the ones that should pick up the tab. So chances are, if you’re on a date with a guy, he will offer to pick up the tab.

But asking him to pay could land you in hot water, even though most guys usually pay the check anyway. It gives off the impression that you are entitled. Instead, offer to split the check with him. And if he does offer to pay for the entire check, it will win you points in your favor.

3. You need to man up.

There are so many problems with telling someone to man up that we don’t even know where to begin. Firstly, it implies that men are strong and women are weak. Secondly, it will probably make your guy feel like he’s not man enough for you.

Not only does it encourage unhealthy and untrue stereotypes, but it also lets him know that you expect him to do better than he is already doing. You’re telling him that he’s not doing enough and that you don’t respect him.

4. I’m fine.

Communication is one of the most important factors for making a relationship work. If you don’t have a good flow of communication with your partner, things aren’t likely to work out. So with that in mind, it’s obviously not a good idea to tell your partner that you’re fine when you’re not fine. If he has done something to upset you, say it.

If you don’t think it’s worth bringing it up, try to act like it’s not worth bringing up rather than acting like it’s something that’s eating you up from the inside. We’re all passive-aggressive sometimes, but it’s much easier for everyone if we just speak up instead of saying that we’re fine and letting things build up. Never pretend that you’re not mad or upset with a guy because it will lead to resentment and eventually cause a blowup.

How many of these things are you guilty of saying to your guy? Do you have any other lines that have upset a guy in the past?

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