Single ladies, are you navigating the New Jersey dating scene without any real results in your love life? Let our matchmaking professionals here at South Jersey Matchmakers make positive changes in your romantic life with 5 simple yet effective dating tips!
Have you ever asked yourself the following question: What do I have to do or not do to get better results in my romantic life? What do I expect from a partner to be happy? How must I act in order to get a quality partner? What will I not tolerate in a partner?
We know there are many women who stay in unfulfilling relationships or date the wrong men (and for much longer than they should). Many women stay with the wrong men because they think that’s the best they can do, some say they didn’t want to hurt their feelings or simply that they just wanted to be in a relationship and didn’t want to be alone. And sometimes, women only stay because they have no idea how to end it.
In our 25 years of matchmaking here at South Jersey Matchmakers, our dating and relationship experts have heard many reasons why women stay in bad relationships, especially women over 40. If you’re a single women struggling to find real love and happiness, we want to help you out. Today, our professional matchmakers will share what you need to do to improve your chances at finding real love over 40.
1. Let Go of Your List of Requirements
Don’t just pay attention to the men who are tall and good looking. If you are the type of woman who has always gone for the hottie type, drop those Hollywood expectations and get with the real world. You need to lower your expectations if you are always shooting men down without even giving them a chance.
There are plenty of good looking men who are 6’s and 7’s, ones that you have neglected. Often times, a 6 or a 7 can speak like a 10 and be very attractive just like when a 10 speaks he might turn out to be more like a 1… Get it?
His sense of humor, his wit, and his compassion will make a man more attractive, but you can only see that if you are willing to give him a chance. Sometimes, all it takes is to give him a warm smile and watch that 6 become a 10.
You know how some 10’s open their mouths and suddenly become a 3? Well, things work both ways. And this rule also applies for height. If you let go of your expectations of dating a tall man, you will open yourself up for a whole new pool of men to date, greatly increasing your chances of finding love.
2. Always Look Up
When you are out and about running your errands, our matchmakers want you to look up at the people around you. Smile and introduce yourself, and maintain eye contact with him for a little longer than you normally would. This might feel uncomfortable in the beginning, but believe us, before you know it, it will come naturally to you.
You can start a conversation by simply asking a question. It doesn’t have to be a clever one, a simple one will do. Simply ask the following “How is the coffee here?” while at a coffee shop. Or, “Do you shop here often?” at a local grocery store. It is really simple and easy, men find it appealing when a woman comes up to them to talk. They will think you’re friendly and confident, two highly attractive qualities to possess.
3. Listen a Little
You now know how to get the conversation started, but as you already know, men can also be talkers, especially when they’re feeling nervous. Try cutting him some slack if you notice he’s becoming fidgeting, getting over chatty, or bragging a little. He is probably doing those things because he is trying to impress you.
Whatever you do, please don’t listen and roll your eyes if you think he is bragging. Why do you think he is talking? Because he feels a connection and is saying those things in attempts to impress you. You can help him be a little more at ease by sharing things about yourself as well. That’s right, make sure that mid conversation you squeeze in a few details about your life too. Get in some details about the things you love doing, what makes you laugh, and what you do in your spare time. Don’t be afraid to show him the real you, whether you’re soft and feminine, athletic and adventurous, or an intellectual homebody. Real men are attracted to real women, so let your true colors come out.
4. Get Flirting
If you’re into him, then show him you’re into him. Men love receiving attention from women, but most importantly, those who are 5’s, 6’s, and 7’s because they don’t get it too often. Women make the mistake of holding back because they think it’s a man’s job to flirt. If you’re interested enough to go up to him to talk, get his attention by flirting with him. It’s very simple, and you can do it subtly.
Give him a sincere compliment. Men are very flattered when a woman admires them, respects them, and trusts them. A great example would be to ask him for his opinion if you’re at a bookstore. You’ll not only get to know him, but he’ll feel smart in the process.
Oh, and don’t forget to laugh at his jokes if you get them.
Touching is another great way of making a connection. Below the elbow is the best place to touch, or you can brush your shoulder or arm against his. Remember that actions speak louder than words… And don’t worry, he won’t think you want a one night stand with him. He’ll just think you’re flirting as long as you do it in a classy way.
Another great way of flirting is by leaning in when he’s talking, twirling your hair, or biting your lip. Don’t worry if he knows you’re flirting; after all, that is the whole point here, right?
5. It’s Time to Close the Deal
If he hasn’t asked for your number, don’t hesitate to make your move. You don’t want to seem like your desperate, but let him know that you are going to say yes if he asks for yours. How do you do this without coming off as pushy? Simple. Show him you’re interested. Tell him that it was fun talking to him and that you would love to do it again. If all else fails, you can say, “I would love to talk to you again, do you have a card?”
If you’re ready to start meeting like-minded, relationship-ready men in an easier and timesaving manner, give our matchmaking professionals a call today. Here at South Jersey Matchmakers, we do all the hard work of vetting and screening for you, leaving you to have fun dating!
