Traveling with your partner, whether it’s a weekend getaway or a weeklong vacation, is a great test for your relationship. You can learn a lot about your partner when they’re under stress, from how they react to an overbooked hotel, rainy weather, or a lost passport, the results can be mind blowing. What starts as a romantic trip for two can quickly lead to a heated fight that ends in a breakup.
From our experience in the New Jersey dating and relationship industry, our experts here at South Jersey Matchmakers have come to learn many things about traveling as a couple and we want to teach you too. So go ahead and book your cruise, renew your passport, and get excited for your upcoming vacation with your partner, but don’t ignore the secrets our Cherry Hill matchmakers will reveal for you today. These expert tips will save time and stress and help you make the very most of your vacation together.
1. Be honest about your vacation style.
There is no denying that most relationships start off with a few white lies and enhancements. Everyone is bound to exaggerate a few things here and there. But are you really into hiking, rock climbing, and extreme sports? Maybe you are, maybe you’re not, but it sounds better than eating Doritos on the sofa, while watching TV, right?
It is natural to be eager to share common interests with a new partner. If they love it, then (in your mind) of course they’ll be drawn to you if you love it too. But now is the time to speak up and be honest. If you’re used to all the modern conveniences and amenities of five star hotels, then you don’t commit to going backpacking through the jungle if you know you’re going to hate it. If you are scared of the ocean, then don’t sign up to go scuba diving while in Cancun. Now is the time to be honest so you can find a destination and activities that you’ll both enjoy; otherwise, you’re in for a truly terrible time.
2. Do your homework ahead of time.
Once you have picked a destination, it’s time to start studying and doing a little homework to make sure you plan everything accordingly and you don’t miss a thing. We encourage you to split your days between exploring the city, visiting different tourist attractions, and engaging in fun activities your destination offers. But remember to pick activities you’ll both enjoy and visit places you both look forward to seeing.
3. Your partner is not your tour guide.
Planning a trip and its activities requires a lot of work and you shouldn’t put it all on your partner. Even if your partner has more experience because they have traveled more than you, take some initiative and do some studying yourself. Look up some sights you want to see, some places you want to visit, and some restaurants you want to try. This will help take some of the stress from your partner and will allow the two of you to compare ideas.
4. Don’t forget to be spontaneous.
Our Cherry Hill matchmakers know that the best travel plans are always flexible. Of course it is very important to go to your destination with a plan in mind, but don’t forget to make room for spontaneity. Maybe you’ll run into a group of other tourists who invite you to a party, be welcoming to the idea. Or maybe when you reach the hotel you notice they’re having a parade outside, go to it. If the hotel is throwing a party on Saturday night, don’t be afraid to check it out. Don’t be afraid to try new things and be spontaneous; after all, you might have the time of your life.
5. It’s okay to spend time apart.
Well, hopefully the two of you spend every second together; after all, that is what a couple’s vacation is for. But if you’re up earlier than your partner, and you know they want to sleep in a little longer, don’t be afraid to grab some breakfast by yourself or walk around and explore the hotel or resort before they get up. There’s nothing wrong with doing a thing or two by yourself. If you know someone in the area, grab a quick bite to eat with them, go get a massage at the spa, or lay out by the pool, while your partner takes a nap.
6. Play tourists around town.
One of the best things to do on vacation is play up the role of a tourist. Visit local sights, museums, and other touristy attractions. There is nothing better than playing tourists with your partner, taking pictures, making memories, and exploring everything your destination has to offer.
7. Create anticipation for the trip.
Do something that creates excitement before your trip. If you are visiting Italy, then prepare some fun pasta meals and drink wine beforehand. Going to China? Prepare Chinese and listen to fitting music. Going to Mexico? Have fun drinking margaritas and eating guacamole together. Visiting Paris? Watch a movie that revolves around Paris. There is nothing better than creating anticipation for your trip together. Our Cherry Hill matchmakers know it will get both of you excited about your upcoming vacation.
8. Eat like the locals.
One of the best parts about traveling is exploring the new cuisine. If you opt for popular tourist restaurants, you might end up spending a whole lot more money than you planned on… And you may not get to experience the authentic food. Ask the locals about the best hidden spots to grab, breakfast, lunch, or dinner. Tell them you want to experience the real deal and want to know where the locals frequent.
9. Disconnect.
One of the best parts about going on a vacation is spending time together (quality time). So, why are you still glued to your phone? Yes, you can carry your phone with you and take pictures of everything you see; after all, you want to create memories, but don’t forget to enjoy each other’s company and live in the moment. Edit your pictures or post them on social media when you get back home. Trust us, your partner will thank you for this one.
10. Spend the day in bed.
Traveling and walking around can be exhausting. Between jetlag, airport stress, and walking miles daily, you’re bound to get a little worn out. There is nothing wrong about spending a day in bed, ordering room service, and watching movies. This will refresh you and recharge you for the following day of exploring.
We hope this travel guide for traveling as a couple helps you and partner create an experience that will last a lifetime. If you’re not having any luck meeting the right partners on your own, contact our Cherry Hill matchmakers and let us introduce you to quality singles in New Jersey!
